sadhanaMost of us women are perfectionists. We are taught from a very young age to be good and follow the rules. The downside of this is we think if we are not doing something perfectly, then we are doing it wrong or worse, that there’s something wrong with us. Throw in career ambition, taking care of family, life stuff, etc. and we have a recipe for not being able to maintain habits.
In this blog, I want to cover a few topics on creating and maintaining habits:
1. You don’t have to do it perfectly every day. As women, our energy varies based on where we are in our cycle. Also, as humans, our responsibilities shift depending on the season and stage of life. So we can’t expect ourselves to always execute one plan perfectly.
The key is to be fluid and pivot.
Being fluid means executing a habit based on your energy and priorities. For example, if I want to implement a yoga habit, I don’t expect to do a 60-minute class every day. I curate a few classes that are 10, 20, 30, and 60 minutes, with beginner and intermediate variations. Each day, I choose based on the time and energy available to me.
Pivoting means your goals and habits can change over time. They will shift based on the season of life you are in. There was a time when I could do hour-long workouts. Now, I might squeeze in 10 minutes while my baby naps. Both are valid. You don’t have to do things for long or perfectly for it to count. What matters is that you are showing up.
2. Build positive evidence that the habit is possible for you. Every action you take is a vote for the kind of person you want to be. And that action doesn’t have to be big. If you meditate for 3 minutes, 3 times a week, you’re still a meditator. You don’t need an hour a day to benefit. It’s a practice for a reason—the act of showing up consistently is what matters.
3. You can always get back on the wagon. Life happens. There will be days, weeks, or months when habits fall off. But that doesn’t mean you’re broken. I love the idea that the wagon is still there when you’re ready. You don’t have to stay stuck just because you paused. You can choose to start again anytime.
4. If you’re a menstruating person, you can align habits with your cycle. Part of this is energy management, as discussed earlier. Choose what to do based on where you are in your cycle.
Start habits in your follicular phase—just after your period—when energy and motivation are rising. And forgive yourself when you’re not able to keep up during the luteal or menstrual phases. Your cycle gives you a natural rhythm for starting, resting, and reflecting.
If you’re tired of starting and stopping routines, this is your reminder: Consistency doesn’t mean rigidity. It means honoring your body and showing up in the ways that work for you.
If you’re doing your best but still feel like your body isn’t responding the way it should — it might not be your discipline, it might be your hormones.
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